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Abstract
Working with Troubled Children and Teenagers is an easy to understand guide packed with wisdom for anyone working with or caring for troubled children and teens.
Author Jonny Matthew has decades of experience of working with young people, and offers simple but hard-won advice about how to earn the trust and respect of even the most challenging young people. It all starts with you, the adult, adopting a position of respect and patience. It's only then that children and young people will start to respond. From this starting point, Jonny provides a wealth of practical advice across a wide range of challenging topics - from the use of touch and understanding boundaries through to repairing relationships when things break down. Jonny uses case examples and stories throughout to bring his advice to life.
This inspiring book is essential reading for any adult invested in improving the lives of troubled children, including youth workers, social workers, foster carers and child counsellors.
Working with Troubled Children and Teenagers will be a fantastic resource for those people who are doing just that for very low wages in thousands of settings every day. Easy to read and written in a chatty style, the book feels like having a conversation with someone who has spent their life working with young people who are in hard places. Jonny has and still is doing that work, and in this book he has distilled the things he has learnt about the importance of good relationship based work, into short, easily understood messages. If this book gets into the hands of the people at the coal face it will make a huge difference to the lives of troubled youngsters. I'd like to see it become a compulsory text for youth workers, teaching assistants, support workers and anyone else working directly with children and young people.
Ann Bell, Development Director Wales, Adoption UK
Jonny Matthew has decades of experience of working with young people, and has held positions such as Practice Change Lead at the Youth Justice Board Cymru, as well as being co-author of the Trauma Recovery Model. He lives in Bridgend.
Fasten your seatbelts; this is one heck of a read. As a practitioner in the field of youth work and psychotherapy for more years than I care to remember, I believe that this book is definitely essential reading for anyone working with troubled young people. The pages are full of the wisdom, insight and compassion that can only come from years of frontline work, personal reflection and indeed sleepless nights. Jonny Matthew knows what he is talking about....but more than that, this book is a genuine testimony to the power and transformative impact of empathy and the presence of 'one good adult' in the life of a young person. The honesty, humour and at times vulnerability of the author will challenge you to inquire into your own work practice, your attitudes and values. Allow yourself to embody the richness and sensitivity of this powerful book and you too will experience nurturing, support and renewed energy for your work.
Brian Johnston, Director, Candle Youth Services, Dublin (provider of training placements, court ordered supervision and youth work services)
Jonny's huge wealth of understanding and his work with young people through Youth Justice projects clearly comes through. He's presents all his experience and knowledge in a way that is so accessible to frontline practitioners. Each time we engage with him it becomes ever more clear that we need his compassion and understanding of our trouble young people communicating to a much wider audience.
Sheila Taylor MBE, Chief Executive of National Working Group on Child Sexual Exploitation (NWG)
Table of Contents
Section Title | Page | Action | Price |
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Working with Troubled Children and Teenagers – Jonny Matthew | 3 | ||
Welcome | 11 | ||
Introduction | 15 | ||
1. Respect | 19 | ||
How do you see troubled kids? | 19 | ||
Seeing things differently | 21 | ||
Seeing changes everything | 22 | ||
The ingredients of respect | 22 | ||
The power of respect | 25 | ||
Self-respect as an engine of real change | 26 | ||
2. Trust | 28 | ||
What is trust? | 28 | ||
Qualifications aren’t enough | 29 | ||
Sequencing matters | 30 | ||
It’s tough on our own | 31 | ||
Unique pain | 32 | ||
The power of neglect | 32 | ||
Earn it: first, by hanging in there | 34 | ||
Comply or else | 37 | ||
Wrong message | 38 | ||
Sequencing again | 39 | ||
3. Motivation | 40 | ||
Why do such challenging work? | 41 | ||
Poor reasons for working with children and young people | 41 | ||
The best reason for working with children and young people | 44 | ||
4. Expectations | 45 | ||
Laying the groundwork | 45 | ||
Aim high and speak ‘up’ to young people | 47 | ||
Expect the unexpected! | 51 | ||
5. Listening | 54 | ||
The impact of being ignored | 55 | ||
Listening as an instrument of change | 55 | ||
Being ignored changes our behaviour | 56 | ||
Troubled kids’ behaviour is affected too | 57 | ||
So how do we really listen? | 58 | ||
6. Giving | 63 | ||
Nuts and bolts | 63 | ||
The monkey isn’t enough on its own | 64 | ||
Be honest | 65 | ||
Self as an instrument of change | 69 | ||
Important caveats | 70 | ||
7. Boundaries and Integrity | 71 | ||
Freedom? | 71 | ||
Professional boundaries | 72 | ||
The ‘good’ worker | 73 | ||
Know your role | 73 | ||
No compromise | 75 | ||
Work the process | 78 | ||
Have your cake and eat it | 79 | ||
8. Act | 80 | ||
DO something! | 80 | ||
Delivery is everything – the 3 Cs | 82 | ||
Do the job | 87 | ||
9. Persevere | 88 | ||
Setbacks | 88 | ||
The territory | 89 | ||
Keeping going | 90 | ||
Remembering your ‘why’ | 90 | ||
Capturing your ‘why’ | 91 | ||
My ‘why’ | 92 | ||
Five benefits of remembering your ‘why’ | 92 | ||
How to remember your ‘why’ | 94 | ||
Distinctiveness | 95 | ||
10. Touch | 97 | ||
Touch is normal | 98 | ||
Experience of touch | 98 | ||
Negative touch | 99 | ||
OK touch | 100 | ||
Relationship first | 101 | ||
Asking permission | 101 | ||
Touching and calming | 102 | ||
Benefits of touch | 103 | ||
A quick summary | 105 | ||
11. Payback | 106 | ||
Seeing children change | 106 | ||
Delay the reaper | 107 | ||
Celebrating prevention (the invisible investment) | 108 | ||
What didn’t happen | 109 | ||
Progress | 110 | ||
Trans-generational impact | 111 | ||
12. Icing | 113 | ||
Remembering | 113 | ||
Effort | 116 | ||
Honouring | 117 | ||
Humour | 118 | ||
Not a cake | 120 | ||
13. Your No.1 Client | 121 | ||
Fit for purpose | 122 | ||
Compassion fatigue | 122 | ||
Impacts | 123 | ||
Nose to the wall | 124 | ||
Making the change | 126 | ||
Practical hacks | 127 | ||
Act now | 130 | ||
Conclusion | 132 | ||
Learning | 132 | ||
The soul of the work | 133 | ||
Recommended Reading | 135 | ||
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