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Abstract
Therapeutic parenting is a deeply nurturing parenting style, and is especially effective for children with attachment difficulties, or who experienced childhood trauma. This book provides everything you need to know in order to be able to effectively therapeutically parent.
Providing a model of intervention, The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting gives parents or caregivers an easy to follow process to use when responding to issues with their children. The following A-Z covers 60 common problems parents face, from acting aggressively to difficulties with sleep, with advice on what might trigger these issues, and how to respond.
Easy to navigate and written in a straightforward style, this book is a 'must have' for all therapeutic parents.
.A real breath of fresh air! The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting is a much needed strategy focused, no-nonsense book which is easily accessible. Essential help for all therapeutic parents dealing with the many difficult challenges they face.
Sarah Dillon, Psychotherapist and attachment therapist, Fostering Panel Chair, former child in foster care
An absolute must have book that every therapeutic parent should own. No more searching the internet for hours on end looking for strategies and solutions to my children's behaviours. There are all here in this book
Emma Edwards, Adoptive parent
Sarah Naish is an adoptive parent, director of Inspire Training Group, which delivers training on attachment issues, founder of the National Association of Therapeutic Parents and author of the hugely popular Therapeutic Parenting Books series.
Table of Contents
| Section Title | Page | Action | Price |
|---|---|---|---|
| The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting: Strategies and Solutions by Sarah Naish | 3 | ||
| Acknowledgements | 8 | ||
| Introduction | 9 | ||
| Part 1: The Basics | 17 | ||
| 1. Why Our Children Do the Things They Do | 18 | ||
| 2. A Word About Developmental Trauma and Related Disorders | 29 | ||
| 3. The Essential Foundations of Therapeutic Parenting | 32 | ||
| 4. The P.A.R.E.N.T.S. Model of Intervention for Therapeutic Parents | 41 | ||
| 5. Summary and Explanation of Other Therapeutic Parenting Strategies | 51 | ||
| 6. Responses and Strategies to Avoid | 59 | ||
| 7. Managing Our Own Feelings – Compassion Fatigue and Self-Care | 68 | ||
| Part 2 : A–Z of Behaviours and Challenges with Solutions | 75 | ||
| A | 77 | ||
| Absconding (see also Defiance) | 77 | ||
| Absences (trauma-related/dissociative seizures, non-epileptic seizures) | 80 | ||
| Addiction (see Drugs and Alcohol, Obsessions, Smoking) | 81 | ||
| Aggression (see also Biting, Controlling Behaviours, Rudeness, Sibling Rivalry, Spitting) | 81 | ||
| Alcohol (see Drugs and Alcohol) | 86 | ||
| Anger (see Aggression, Arguing, Sleep Issues, Rudeness, and Part 1, Chapter 1) | 86 | ||
| Anxiety (see also Part 1, Chapter 1, and Charming, Chewing, Nonsense Chatter, Obsessions, Separation Anxiety) | 86 | ||
| Arguing (child vs parent) (see also Competitiveness, Controlling Behaviours, Rudeness, Shouting and Screaming, Sibling Rivalry) | 88 | ||
| Avoidant Behaviours (see Choosing, Controlling Behaviours, Defiance, Rejection, and Part 1, Chapter 1) | 90 | ||
| B | 91 | ||
| Baby Voice (see Immaturity) | 91 | ||
| Banging (see also Anxiety, Headbanging, Sleep Issues) | 91 | ||
| Bath Time Issues (including showering) (see also Defiance) | 93 | ||
| Bedtime Issues (see also Sleep Issues) | 96 | ||
| Bedwetting (see also Messy Bedrooms, Urinating) | 99 | ||
| Birthdays, Christmas and Other Celebrations (see also Obsessions, Rejection, Sabotaging, Ungratefulness) | 103 | ||
| Biting (see also Aggression) | 107 | ||
| Blocked care (see Part 1, Chapter 7) | 109 | ||
| Blocking (see Controlling Behaviours) | 109 | ||
| Boasting (see also Lying, Overreacting) | 109 | ||
| Bossiness (see Competitiveness, Controlling Behaviours, Sibling Rivalry) | 112 | ||
| Bottles (late use of) (see Immaturity) | 112 | ||
| Breaking Things (see Damaging, Sabotaging) | 112 | ||
| Brushing Teeth (see also Bath Time Issues, Defiance) | 112 | ||
| C | 115 | ||
| Car Journeys (see Controlling Behaviours, Holidays, Sibling Rivalry) | 115 | ||
| Cause and Effect (see Part 1, Chapter 1, Lack of cause-and-effect thinking) | 115 | ||
| Changes in Behaviour (see Transitions) | 115 | ||
| Charming (see also Honeymoon Period, Triangulation) | 115 | ||
| Chewing (see also Absences, Damaging) | 118 | ||
| Choosing Difficulties | 120 | ||
| Christmas (see Birthdays, Christmas and Other Celebrations, Rejection, Sabotage, Transitions, Ungratefulness) | 122 | ||
| Clinging (see Separation Anxiety) | 122 | ||
| Compassion Fatigue (see Part 1, Chapter 7) | 122 | ||
| Competitiveness (see also Boasting, Controlling Behaviours, Sibling Rivalry) | 122 | ||
| Constant Chatter/Questions (see Nonsense Chatter) | 124 | ||
| Contact (see Life Story, Transitions) | 124 | ||
| Controlling Behaviours (see also Defiance, Competitiveness, and and any other specific behaviours or situations where control issues are relevant e.g. Transitions, and Part 1, Chapter 1) | 124 | ||
| Cruelty to Animals (see also Part 1, Chapter 1 ‘Lack of Empathy’ and ‘Lack of Response’) | 128 | ||
| D | 132 | ||
| Damaging (see also Chewing, Dirty Clothing, Sabotaging, Sneaky Behaviours) | 132 | ||
| Defiance (see also Controlling Behaviours, Lateness, Rudeness, Transitions) | 134 | ||
| Destruction (see Damaging) | 138 | ||
| Dirty Clothing (see also Chewing, Damaging, Messy Bedrooms, Sabotaging) | 138 | ||
| Disorganisation (see Dirty Clothing, Memory Issues and Disorganisation, Messy Bedrooms) | 142 | ||
| Disrespecting (see Damaging, Rejection, Rudeness, Ungratefulness) | 142 | ||
| Dissociating (see Absences (trauma based)) | 142 | ||
| Drugs and Alcohol (see also Food Issues, Smoking) | 142 | ||
| Dummies (see Immaturity) | 143 | ||
| E | 144 | ||
| Emotional Age (see Immaturity) | 144 | ||
| Empathy (lack of) (see Part 1, Chapter 1) | 144 | ||
| Encopresis (see Poo Issues) | 144 | ||
| Enuresis (see Bedwetting, Urinating) | 144 | ||
| Exaggerating (see Boasting, Overreacting) | 144 | ||
| F | 145 | ||
| Fake Illnesses (see Hypochondria) | 145 | ||
| Fake Personality (see Charming) | 145 | ||
| Fake Smile (see Charming) | 145 | ||
| False Allegations (see also Lying, Overreacting, Triangulation) | 145 | ||
| Father’s Day (see Birthdays, Christmas and Other Celebrations, Sabotaging) | 150 | ||
| Fearfulness/Fear Response (see Part 1, Chapter 1) | 150 | ||
| Following (see Nonsense Chatter, Separation Anxiety) | 150 | ||
| Food Issues (see also Defiance, Controlling Behaviours, Mealtime Issues, School Issues, and Part 1, Chapter 1) | 150 | ||
| Forgetfulness (see Memory Issues) | 155 | ||
| Friendships (see also Obsessions) | 155 | ||
| G | 160 | ||
| Gratitude (see Ungratefulness) | 160 | ||
| Grief (of carer) (see Part 1, Chapter 7) | 160 | ||
| Grief (of child) (see Life Story, and Part 1, Chapter 1) | 160 | ||
| Goading (see Joking and Teasing) | 160 | ||
| H | 161 | ||
| Headbanging (see also Banging, and Part 1, Chapter 1) | 161 | ||
| Hiding (see Transitions) | 164 | ||
| Hitting Others (see Aggression) | 164 | ||
| Hitting Self (see Damaging, Sabotaging, Self-harm) | 164 | ||
| Hoarding (see Food Issues, Mealtime Issues, Stealing Food) | 164 | ||
| Holidays (see also School Issues, Transitions) | 164 | ||
| Homework (see also Memory Issues and Disorganisation, School Issues) | 169 | ||
| Honeymoon Period (see also Charming, and Part 1, Chapter 1) | 172 | ||
| Hostility (parent feeling towards child) (see Part 1, Chapter 7) | 175 | ||
| Hostility (from child) (see Defiance, Rejection, Rudeness) | 175 | ||
| Hunger (see Food Issues, Mealtime Issues, and Part 1, Chapter 1) | 175 | ||
| Hygiene (see Bath Time Issues, Brushing Teeth, Dirty Clothing, Messy Bedrooms, Sabotaging) | 175 | ||
| Hypocondria (see also Self-Harming, Overreacting, and Part 1, Chapter 1, Interoception) | 175 | ||
| Hypervigilance (see Memory Issues and Disorganisation, and Part 1, Chapter 1) | 178 | ||
| I | 179 | ||
| Ignoring (see Controlling Behaviours, Defiance, Lateness) | 179 | ||
| Immaturity (see also Part 1, Chapter 1) | 179 | ||
| J | 183 | ||
| Joking and Teasing (see also Anxiety, Immaturity, and Part 1, Chapter 1) | 183 | ||
| K | 186 | ||
| Kicking (see Aggression) | 186 | ||
| L | 187 | ||
| Lateness (moving slowly, lagging behind, staying in bed) (see also Controlling Behaviours, Defiance) | 187 | ||
| Laundry Issues (see Defiance, Dirty Clothing, Messy Bedrooms, Sabotaging) | 192 | ||
| Life Story (see Part 1, Chapter 3, Be honest!) | 192 | ||
| Literalness (see Joking and Teasing, and Part 1, Chapter 1) | 192 | ||
| Losing Things (see Memory Issues and Disorganisation) | 192 | ||
| Lying (see also Boasting, Charming, False Allegations, Overreacting, Triangulation) | 192 | ||
| M | 196 | ||
| Making Decisions (see Choosing Difficulties) | 196 | ||
| Manic Laughter (see Overreacting) | 196 | ||
| Mealtime Issues (see also Controlling Behaviours, Defiance, Food Issues, School Issues, and Part 1, Chapter 1) | 196 | ||
| Memory Issues and Disorganisation (see also Absences, Lateness, Messy Bedrooms) | 201 | ||
| Messy Bedrooms (see also Dirty Clothing, Damaging, Memory Issues and Disorganisation, Sabotaging, Urinating) | 204 | ||
| Moaning (see Whining) | 209 | ||
| Mother’s Day (see Birthdays, Christmas and Other Celebrations, Sabotaging) | 209 | ||
| Mouthing (see Chewing) | 209 | ||
| Moving Slowly (see Defiance, Lateness) | 209 | ||
| N | 210 | ||
| Night Terrors/Nightmares (see Sleep Issues) | 210 | ||
| Nonsense Chatter (nonsense questions) (see also Anxiety, Separation Anxiety) | 210 | ||
| Not Listening (see Controlling Behaviours, Defiance) | 213 | ||
| Not Getting Up (see Lateness) | 213 | ||
| O | 214 | ||
| Obsessions (see also Friendships, Sabotaging, Ungratefulness) | 214 | ||
| Overeating (see Hunger) | 219 | ||
| Over Independence (see Rejection) | 219 | ||
| Overreacting (see also Boasting, Lying, Triangulation) | 220 | ||
| Oversensitivity (see Anxiety, Overreacting, and Part 1, Chapter 1) | 222 | ||
| P | 223 | ||
| Pacifiers (see Dummies) | 223 | ||
| Pee (see Bedwetting, Potty Training, Urinating) | 223 | ||
| Pretending Not to Hear (see Controlling Behaviours, Defiance) | 223 | ||
| Poo Issues (see also Messy Bedrooms, Urinating) | 223 | ||
| Potty Training (see Bedwetting, Immaturity, Poo Issues, Urinating) | 229 | ||
| Q | 230 | ||
| Questioning (see Nonsense Chatter) | 230 | ||
| R | 231 | ||
| Refusing Food (see Mealtime Issues) | 231 | ||
| Refusing to Follow Instructions \n(see Defiance) | 231 | ||
| Refusing to Hurry (see Lateness, Moving Slowly) | 231 | ||
| Refusing to Say Sorry (see Part 1, Chapter 5) | 231 | ||
| Rejection (of parent) (see also Controlling Behaviours, Defiance, Rudeness) | 231 | ||
| Remorse (see Part 1, Chapter 1) | 234 | ||
| Respite (see Transitions, and Part 1, Chapter 7) | 234 | ||
| Reward Charts (see Part 1, Chapter 6) | 234 | ||
| Rudeness (see also Defiance, Joking and Teasing, Rejection, Swearing) | 234 | ||
| Running Off (see also Absconding, Controlling Behaviours, Defiance) | 240 | ||
| S | 244 | ||
| Sabotaging (see also Birthdays, Christmas and Other Celebrations, Damaging, Holidays, Ungratefulness) | 244 | ||
| Sadness (see Part 1, Chapter 1) | 249 | ||
| Saying Sorry (see Remorse, and Part 1, Chapter 6) | 249 | ||
| School Issues (see also Homework, Memory Issues and Disorganisation, Transitions, Triangulation) | 249 | ||
| Screaming (see Shouting and Screaming) | 256 | ||
| Self-Care (see Part 1, Chapter 7) | 256 | ||
| Self-Harm (see also Headbanging, Sabotaging) | 256 | ||
| Sensory Issues (see Headbanging, Overreacting, and Part 1, Chapter 1) | 261 | ||
| Separation Anxiety (see also Anxiety) | 261 | ||
| Sexualised Behaviour (see also Social Media) | 264 | ||
| Shame (see Part 1, Chapter 1) | 269 | ||
| Sharing (see Competitiveness, Controlling Behaviours, Sibling Rivalry) | 269 | ||
| Shopping Difficulties (see Controlling Behaviours, Running Off, Shouting and Screaming) | 269 | ||
| Shouoting and Screaming (see also Arguing, Banging, Rudeness) | 269 | ||
| Sibling Rivalry (see also Arguing, Competitiveness, Controlling Behaviours, Sneaky Behaviours) | 273 | ||
| Sleep Issues (see also Banging, Bedtime Issues, Bedwetting, Defiance, Shouting and Screaming) | 277 | ||
| Sleep Walking (see Sleep Issues) | 284 | ||
| Smoking (see also Drugs and Alcohol) | 284 | ||
| Sneaky Behaviours (see also Joking and Teasing, Lying, Sibling Rivalry, Stealing, Triangulation) | 287 | ||
| Social Media Issues (including phones) (see also Friendships, Obsessions, Sexualised Behaviour) | 290 | ||
| Soiling (see Poo Issues) | 295 | ||
| SPITTING (see also Aggression) | 295 | ||
| Splitting (see Triangulation) | 299 | ||
| Staying in Bed (see Defiance, Lateness, Moving Slowly) | 299 | ||
| Stealing (see also Food Issues – for stealing food) | 299 | ||
| Stealing Food (see Hoarding, Hunger, Overeating) | 305 | ||
| Sugar Addiction (see Hoarding, Hunger, Overeating) | 305 | ||
| Swearing (see also Aggression, Rudeness) | 305 | ||
| T | 308 | ||
| Taking Things Literally (see Joking and Teasing, and Part 1, Chapter 1) | 308 | ||
| Taking Turns (see Competitiveness) | 308 | ||
| Tantrums (see Aggression, Controlling Behaviours, Defiance, Shouting and Screaming) | 308 | ||
| Taunting (see Joking and Teasing) | 308 | ||
| Teasing (see Joking and Teasing) | 308 | ||
| Therapy (see Triangulation, and Part 1, Chapter 3) | 308 | ||
| Tooth Brushing (see Brushing Teeth) | 308 | ||
| Transitions (see also Holidays, School Issues, and Part 1, Chapter 1) | 308 | ||
| Triangulation (see also Charming, False Allegations, Lying, Overreacting) | 314 | ||
| Triggers (see Transitions, and Part 1, Chapter 1) | 319 | ||
| U | 320 | ||
| Unable to be Alone (see Anxiety, Nonsense Chatter, Separation Anxiety) | 320 | ||
| Unable to Make Choices/Decisions (see Choosing Difficulties) | 320 | ||
| Ungratefulness (see also Destruction, Rejection, Rudeness, Obsessions, Sabotaging, and Part 1, Chapter 1) | 320 | ||
| Untidy Bedrooms (see Messy Bedrooms) | 324 | ||
| Urinating (see also Bedwetting, Messy Bedrooms, Poo Issues) | 324 | ||
| V | 329 | ||
| Vacations (see Holiday Issues) | 329 | ||
| Vicarious Trauma (see Compassion Fatigue, and Part 1, Chapter 7) | 329 | ||
| Violence (see Aggression) | 329 | ||
| W | 330 | ||
| Waking Angry (see Sleep Issues) | 330 | ||
| Waking Early (see Sleep Issues) | 330 | ||
| Wee (see Bedwetting, Urinating) | 330 | ||
| Wetting Selves (see Bedwetting, Urinating) | 330 | ||
| Whining (see also Arguing, Nonsense Chatter) | 330 | ||
| X | 335 | ||
| Xenophobia (see also Rudeness) | 335 | ||
| Y | 339 | ||
| Yelling (see Shouting and Screaming) | 339 | ||
| Z | 340 | ||
| Zzzz (see Sleep Issues) | 340 | ||
| References, \nFurther Reading and Websites | 341 | ||
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