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Can I Tell You About Self-Harm?

Can I Tell You About Self-Harm?

Pooky Knightsmith | Elise Evans | Jonathan Singer

(2018)

Abstract

Meet Asher - a teenager who self-harms to manage their feelings when it all feels like too much.

The latest in the best-selling Can I Tell You About... series describes what self-harm is, along with the wide range of behaviours that qualify, why teens do it, and how to get help if you feel the need to self-harm. Reflecting on the different aspects of self-harming behaviour, including treatment of injuries and scars, this concise introduction dispels common myths and offers helpful resources to break the cycle of self-harm. By initiating the conversation around self-harm, this guide will offer alternative avenues for children and young adults to pursue when dealing with big feelings, such as professional counselling, distraction, and friends and family.

This easy-to-read guide is suitable for readers 7+, along with their parents, teachers, and friends. All author royalties from the book will go towards the Charlie Waller Memorial Trust.


Pooky has a knack of taking really complex situations and making them seen easier to deal with and matter-of-fact. Great advice here for anyone whose life is touched by self-harm.
Colin Gambles, Rector at Hutchesons’ Grammar School, Glasgow
Sensitively written ... It covers a subject that is still commonly not talked about and I am sure it will encourage families and schools to have a more open dialogue about self-harm.
Dr Lucy Willetts, Clinical Psychologist
Pooky Knightsmith writes in an engaging, accessible style in straightforward language which oozes compassion and heart. Young people, families and professionals will find this a valuable tool to help them understand, cope with and start a journey of recovery from self-harm.
Steven Walker MPhil, author of Responding to Self-Harm in Children and Adolescents, 2012
This small book enables us to understand the complexities of self-harm and is essential reading for anyone trying to overcome self-harming behaviour, as well as their families, friends, teachers and health care professionals.
Maxine Jameson, Associate Professor in Primary Care, London South Bank University
Pooky Knightsmith is Director of the Children, Young People and Schools Programme at the Charlie Waller Memorial Trust and Vice Chair of Children and Young People's Mental Health Coalition.
Self-harm explained in a voice that is honest, frank, encouraging and informative. Advice for day-to-day challenges is clear and feasible to try.
Anna Corbett, Registered Nurse, School Nurse
Truly insightful ... Captures all the questions we have about self-harm.
Shamyla Naveed, Children and Young People's Mental Health and Wellbeing Practitioner
When understanding of self-harm is limited and time is tight, this must be the first book to read. A 'must have' for every school wellbeing library.
Clare Roberts, Director of Mental Health & Wellbeing, The Magna Carta School, Surrey
Written in Pooky's warm and approachable style ... a must-have in any wellbeing library and an excellent resource for adults and young people alike.
Caro Fenice, Housemistress, Cobham Hall School

Table of Contents

Section Title Page Action Price
Can I Tell You About Self-Harm?: A Guide for Friends, Family and Professionals by Pooky Knightsmith 3
Foreword by Jonathan Singer 9
Introducing Asher Who Struggles with Self‑Harm 14
What is Self-Harm? 16
Who Self-Harms? 16
Attention Seeking? 18
What’s the Link Between Self-Harm and Social Media? 20
It Can Feel Very Lonely 22
Why Do People Self-Harm? 22
Self-Harm and Suicide 25
Caring for Injuries 28
Why Is It Hard to Stop Self-Harming? 30
Who Can Help? 30
What Treatment Is Available? 34
How Can You Break the Cycle? 40
Healthier Alternatives to Self-Harm? 44
How Can You Distract Yourself? 50
Injuries and Scars? 52
How Friends Can Help 54
How Family Members Can Help 58
How Professionals Can Help 60
What Next? 62
Talking to Younger Children about Self-Harm 64
Final Thoughts From Pooky 67
Recommended Reading, Websites and Organizations 69
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