Menu Expand
The Self-Help Guide for Special Kids and their Parents

The Self-Help Guide for Special Kids and their Parents

James Matthew Williams | Joan Matthews

(2000)

Abstract

James Williams is an SP or special person - he was diagnosed with autism during early childhood. His mother, Joan Matthews, is an NP or normal person. As James grew up, his different perception of the world and the lack of understanding from NPs created problems. Together, he and his mother met the challenges with ingenuity and humour. One day, while taking a walk, James and Joan decided to write a book of their practical solutions. The Self-Help Guide for Special Kids is that book.

Covering everything from eye sensitivity, to knowing how far away to stand from other people, to being polite when someone is crying, James and Joan's book describes the problems that an SP may face, and the solutions which they have found to work successfully. Pervaded by their caustic humour and common sense, The Self-Help Guide for Special Kids will be invaluable to other SPs and their families both as a source of advice and a fresh and witty account of how it feels to be an SP.


This book is essential for anyone with an autistic child, or one with a related handicap, teachers and social workers. It is written by the mother of an autistic son with some input from James, too. As the title suggests, it is a reference book rather than just for reading, but there is no jargon in it (I only had to look up the one word "echolia"), so makes for easy reading. It is broken up into 84 very short chapters, each stating a problem encountered by SKs (Special Kids) that wouldn't be a problem for NKs (Normal Kids), and how Joan and James remedied the problem. Most of the problems are ones recognised by the mother - eg. "touch sensitivity", "going to school" and "anger" - but James has added ones that he feels strongly about - "carelessness", "stomach-aches", "hating water"
Adoption Today
The chapters cover various issues, and in a problem/solution format offer a spectrum of practical advice from how to adapt to unfamiliar food to being polite when someone is crying. Detailed self-help guides for language and social skills teaching are included, as is advice for special teachers. The book is written with humour and frankness, but above all optimism: we are introduced to James as an eight-year-old whose `alien status' made school too stressful for him to attend; we leave him as a fully mainstreamed eleven-year-old with friends and a social life... This book offers reassurance, help and hope to anyone with an autistic diagnosis, their families and those whose job it is to educate or help them.
Disability Times
Joan Matthews is the mother of James Williams, and the author of five romance novels. James, aged 11, is now a fully mainstreamed fifth-grader without special support services. He wants to be a writer and to help other people with autism when he grows up. Joan and James live in Northbrook, Illinois.
This book, written by local Northbrook resident James Williams and his mom, Joan Matthews, is that rare treasure - a book that gives us "neuro-typical" folks look at life through the eyes of a child with autism. However, whereas Temple Grandin and Donna Williams (among others) have become published authors as adults, and recall childhood experiences, James began writing his chapters as an 8-year-old! At the ripe old age of 11 he made additional observations that are included in the Self-Help-Guide. While over 30 of the short "chapters" are by James, many more are written by his mom, who seems very adept at understanding how her boy experiences things, while also being able to contrast the NP (normal person or non-neurotypical person) point of view with SP (special person, autistic, Asperger etc.)She also tackles topics not touched by James, and where we needed for clarification interjects her comments/paragraphs into chapters otherwise authored by James. The Result is a book of over 80 short chapters dealing with the NP and SP experience of topics as varied as: Being Obsessed with Perfection, Balance Problems, Hating Water, Stomach aches, Being Polite when Someone is Crying, Going to School, Being Flexible, etc, with both problems and potential solutions presented that can help us parents help our own special child to cope. For those of us (most of us) raising young kids with Autism, many of whom who cannot talk and write as well as James, this book is a god-send as it helps us understand how our kids may well be interpreting the world around them. Thanks for speaking up, James (and your mom) for the kids who can't communicate as well (and I am going to think twice about patting my son on the back from now on !)
Autism Newsletter

Table of Contents

Section Title Page Action Price
COVER\r Cover
The Self-Help Guide for\rSpecial Kids and Their Parents 3
DEDICATION 5
ABBREVIATIONS 6
Contents 7
PREFCAE TO THE REVISED EDITION\r 11
A DISCLAIMER BY JOAN\r 15
1\rSaying Hello 17
2\rNoise Sensitivity 19
3\rEye Contact 21
4\rRecognizing Faces 23
5\rEye Sensitivity 25
6\rEye Teaming* 29
7\rTouch Sensitivity 31
8\rShaking or Holding Hands 35
9\rChange 38
10\rNose Sensitivity 41
11\rFood Sensitivity 43
12\rFood Allergies* 46
13\rChewing and Swallowing 48
14\rHating Water* 51
15\rToilet Training* 53
16\rGoing to the Bathroom 55
17\rBreathing Problems* 57
18\rTeeth Problems* 59
19\rSpace Problems 61
20\rKnowing How Far Away to Stand\rfrom Other People 66
21\rThe Inner Ear 69
22\rBalance Problems* 72
23\rAuditory Processing Delays 74
24\rHaving an Urge to Quote 78
25\rThe Music Playing in Your Head* 80
26\rSpecial Occasions 82
27\rBeing Polite When\rSomeone is Crying 91
28\rBeing Obsessed with the Alphabet 93
Chapter 29\rBeing Obsessed with Time 97
30\rBeing Obsessed with Music* 100
31\rBeing Obsessed with Numbers* 102
32\rBeing Obsessed with Perfection* 104
33\rLeft vs. Right Hemisphere\rProcessing* 106
34\rThinking Styles 108
35\rStress* 115
36\rBehavior Problems* 120
37\rDiscipline 123
38\rAnger 130
39\rGoing to School 134
40\rTeasing 147
41\rVerbal Confusion 149
42\rUnderstanding Other People 151
43\rThe Rules of Language 154
44\rLiteral Language 158
45\rTelling Lies and Keeping Secrets 159
46\rUsing Your Voice Politely* 162
47\rMouth Control* 164
48\rTuning Out 168
49\rPlaying Frozen 170
50\rCocooning 172
51\rExercise 173
52\rPain Problems* 175
53\rFoot Problems 178
54\rStomachaches* 180
55\rHeadaches 182
56\rNeck Problems* 184
57\rBack Problems* 186
58\rThe Chiropractor 188
59\rAiming Problems 189
60\rWaiting Problems 191
61\rConnecting with Other People 194
62\rSaying the Opposite* 196
63\rThings Mothers Do to Their SPs* 198
64\rNPs and SPs Together: Part I* 201
65\rInterrupting Other People* 203
66\rBeing Polite* 209
67\rTrusting Other People* 211
68\rDisagreeing with Other People* 214
69\rCarelessness* 217
70\rBeing Lonely and Making Friends 219
71\rLoving Other People 222
72\rUnderstanding Feelings* 225
73\rCooperation 227
74\rBeing Flexible* 230
75\rMaking Good Decisions* 234
76\rFreedom of Choice 236
77\rCleaning Up 237
78\rFuture Judgment* 240
79\rNeeding Other People 243
80\rMine and Yours* 245
81\rDoing Things People\rWant You to Do* 247
82\rNPs and SPs Together: Part II 249
83\rReciprocity* 251
84\rSaying Goodbye 255
Conclusion*:\rThe Final Frontier 258
APPENDIX I: GETTING BETTER\r 263
APPENDIX II: The SELF-HELP GUIDE TO TEACHING LANGUAGE\r 271
APPENDIX III: The SELF-HELP GUIDE TO TEACHING SOCIAL SKILLS\r 281
APPENDIX IV: The SELF-HELP GUIDE FOR SPECIAL TEACHERS\r 286
APPENDIX V: SPs IN THE NEW MILLENN\rIUM 293
INDEX\r 296