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How to Understand Your Gender

How to Understand Your Gender

Alex Iantaffi | Meg-John Barker

(2017)

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Abstract

'For anyone who's ever wished they had a smart, kind, friend with whom they could calmly and safely discuss gender issues: this most excellent book is that kind of friend'. - Kate Bornstein, author of Gender Outlaw

Have you ever questioned your own gender identity? Do you know somebody who is transgender or who identifies as non-binary? Do you ever feel confused when people talk about gender diversity?

This down-to-earth guide is for anybody who wants to know more about gender, from its biology, history and sociology, to how it plays a role in our relationships and interactions with family, friends, partners and strangers. It looks at practical ways people can express their own gender, and will help you to understand people whose gender might be different from your own. With activities and points for reflection throughout, this book will help people of all genders engage with gender diversity and explore the ideas in the book in relation to their own lived experiences.


How to Understand Your Gender is a thoughtful, intersectional, embodied invitation to reflect on gender. It has something to offer to readers at every stage of their gender journey, and is a valuable tool for educators and clinicians.
Zena Sharman, PhD, editor of The Remedy: Queer and Trans Voices on Health and Health Care and Persistence: All Ways Butch and Femme
The authors have made adequate time for Indigenous and Two Spirit identities and people. Talking about decolonizing the gender narrative in a way that traces back to the very roots of the first peoples in a place is something that is crucial in providing understanding, but is often ignored or overlooked. Hands down, I will recommend this book for anybody looking to learn more about gender and sexuality. It's an amazing resource for ALL, regardless of identity, experience or knowledge. I fell head over heels with this book, and I can't wait to shout it from the rooftops!
Katrina Werchouski, Director of Indigenous Cultures Center, Northland College
For anyone who's ever wished they had a smart, kind, friend with whom they could calmly and safely discuss gender issues: this most excellent book is that kind of friend.
Kate Bornstein, author of Gender Outlaw
How to Understand Your Gender is a practical entry level guidebook for people who wish to challenge gender binarism, and should contribute to binarism's ongoing evolution.
Jane Haile
New York Journal of Books
As a trans masculine person [...] I identified with so much, over and over again. Not only did this validate my own journey but it offered me access to the joys and difficulties of others and I felt less alone. This book will travel with me, it's not a one off read, but a guide I can dip in and out of whenever I feel the need.
Wenn Lawson, author of Transitioning Together
Wherever you are on your gender adventure, this book will be helpful to you. Beyond the headlines, gender is a personal journey - and for anyone struggling to find their way, this is the compassionate, accessible manual the world has been waiting for.
Laurie Penny, journalist, activist and author of Unspeakable Things
If you want to finally discard the narrow confines of gender and sexuality and explore the vast landscapes of gender and sexual imagination, this is your book!
Jayashree George, Lecturer, School of the Art Institute of Chicago

Table of Contents

Section Title Page Action Price
How to Understand Your Gender: A Practical Guide for Exploring Who You Are by Alex Iantaffi and Meg-John Barker 2
Foreword by S. Bear Bergman 9
Acknowledgements 14
Introduction 19
Section 1: What Is Gender? 29
1.1 What words mean 29
1.2 Sex/gender and gender/sexuality 39
1.3 Gender is biopsychosocial 45
1.4 Multiple dimensions: Identities, roles, expressions, experiences 52
Section 2: How the World Sees Gender 63
2.1 Gender across time and space 64
2.2 Gender stereotypes 70
2.3 Impact of gender stereotypes 75
2.4 Masculinities, femininities, androgynies, and beyond 85
Section 3: Your Gender Background 95
3.1 ‘It’s a …’: The sex you were assigned at birth 96
3.2 Intersections 102
3.3 Growing up gendered: Learning over time 112
3.4 Telling your gender story 116
Section 4: Your Current Experience of Gender 124
4.1 Your current gender 124
4.2 Gender in your current intersections 129
4.3 Gender binaries and how you relate to them 136
4.4 Gender in your wider world, institutions, relationships, and self 147
Section 5: Identifying and Living Your Gender 158
5.1 Identifying our gender/s 158
5.2 Gendered words and descriptors 168
5.3 Gender and bodies 174
5.4 Everyday expressions 188
Section 6: Gender, Relationships, and Sexuality 198
6.1 Sharing your gender with those around you 199
6.2 Intimacy 209
6.3 Different kinds of relationships 218
6.4 Sexuality and sexual practices 227
Section 7: Gender Pioneers and Gender Warriors 238
7.1 Finding role models 239
7.2 Finding community (if you want to) 248
7.3 Community: Support and tensions 254
7.4 Changing the world! 265
Conclusions 276
Index 281
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