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Everyday Parenting with Security and Love

Everyday Parenting with Security and Love

Kim Golding | Dan Hughes | Alex Barrett

(2017)

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Abstract

Children who have experienced trauma, loss or separation early in life need more than just special care and attention; they need to be parented with love and security in a way that allows them to heal and rebuild emotional bonds. This comprehensive book provides parents and carers with crucial advice and guidance on how to strengthen attachment and trust.

Based on Dan Hughes' proven 'PACE' model of therapeutic parenting, this book explains how to implement PACE techniques to overcome the challenges faced by children who struggle to connect emotionally. Barriers to stable relationships such as a lack of trust, fear of emotional intimacy, and high levels of shame are all explained. It explores techniques to overcome these barriers by teaching how to support the child's behaviour at the same time as building empathy and trust.

The practical parenting guidance offered throughout is essential for carers or parents of troubled children, and will help build safe, secure emotional relationships.


The use of practical examples and case studies enables therapeutic parents to apply the PACE model effectively. A must-have addition for all therapeutic parents' bookshelves!
Sarah Naish, adoptive parent, CEO National Association of Therapeutic Parents and author of the Therapeutic Parenting children's series
Kim offers us realistic and pragmatic strategies to care for our children that are grounded in the reality of our daily lives and our children's worldview. An essential read for parents of children who have experienced trauma, loss and separation.
Al Coates, adoptive parent, Social Worker, Blogger at 'Misadventures of an Adoptive Dad' and podcaster
Kim S. Golding is a consultant clinical psychologist. She is author of several books including bestsellers Creating Loving Attachments and Nurturing Attachments.
In this important book, Dr Kim Golding provides us with the guidance needed to understand and develop relationships with children and youth who desperately need them in order to have success and joy in their lives.
from the foreword by Dan Hughes, psychologist and founder of Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy

Table of Contents

Section Title Page Action Price
Everyday Parenting with Security and Love: Using PACE to Provide Foundations for Attachment by Kim S. Golding 3
Foreword by Dan Hughes 9
Acknowledgements 11
Introduction 13
Part 1. Understanding the Challenges of Parenting 25
1. Challenge One: Blocked Trust 27
2. Challenge Two: \nFear of Intersubjectivity 49
3. Challenge Three: Understanding Shame 65
4. Challenge Four: Understanding Hidden and Expressed Attachment Needs 77
5. Brain, Biology and the Defensive Child 93
Part 2. Therapeutic Parenting 103
6. Building Connections 105
7. Parenting with PACE 122
8. PACE: Frequently Asked Questions 142
9. A Guide to DDP-Informed Parenting 151
10. Supporting Behaviour 155
11. Some Parenting Principles: ‘Connection with Correction’ 170
12. Parenting in the Moment 180
Part 3. Looking After Self 189
13. Understanding Attachment History 190
14. Self-Care, Other Care and Blocked Care 203
Glossary 234
References 244
Additional Reading 246
Index 248
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