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Love, Partnership, or Singleton on the Autism Spectrum

Love, Partnership, or Singleton on the Autism Spectrum

Luke Beardon | Dean Worton | Wenn Lawson | Tracy Turner | Alex Wilkinson | Sandra Beale-Ellis | Joseph Edmonds | Lynette Marshall | Freddie | Alyssa Aleksanian | David Walsh | Anthony Sclafani | Norman Bridge | Alexandra Brown | Christopher Wilson | Joanna Treasure | Lacey Kerr | C. A. Smart | P. J. Hughes | Philip Bricher | David Smith | Elizabeth Wady | Paul Wady | Jules | Gwen Greenwood | Atul Movelis | A. Nonny Mouse | Chris Stobart | Planet Autism

(2017)

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Abstract

In an immensely varied and thoughtful collection of true life reflections on love, marriage and the single life, 26 authors with autism share their experiences and knowledge about successful (and unsuccessful) relationships. Digging deep into the many and varying ways in which autism affects feelings and relationships with others, these honest and intelligent testimonies give the insider's perspective on love on the spectrum. Whether you're a serial dater, hopelessly romantic or happily single, these perceptive and often funny explorations shows how to make good choices, surmount bad ones, and live a good life.
Love, Partnership and Singleton on the Autism Spectrum highlights the various joys, intricacies and challenges experienced by many on the spectrum in relationships. Featuring the experiences and views of those in relationships, some seeking partnership and individuals who choose to remain single, it asserts the right of autistic people to define our own contentment. Uplifting, thought-provoking and in places challenging, this book will undoubtedly lead to a general re-evaluation of long-held perceptions of relationships and what makes them work.
Dean Beadle, International autistic speaker and lecturer
The desire to achieve a lasting and mutually fulfilling relationship can be very strong in someone with an Autism Spectrum Disorder. However, there may be significant challenges in finding a partner and maintaining the relationship. While we have considerable literature on the perspective of the partner who does not have an ASD, we have remarkably little on the perspective, experiences and achievements of the partner with an ASD. The wisdom and advice in this insightful book will be invaluable for both partners and contribute greatly towards an understanding of relationships from the ASD perspective.
Tony Attwood, Minds and Hearts Clinic, Brisbane
When giving adults a diagnosis of autism, one of the first and ongoing issues for them involves initiating and maintaining social relationships. I could not convey the levels of diversity or the various creative means of managing social relationships until this book was written. Thankfully I now have this excellent and engaging resource to offer the autistic people I meet. I am confident this positive take on relationships will become a well-thumbed addition to my library!
E. Veronica (Vicky) Bliss, Clinical Psychologist
A brilliant collection of essays from autistic writers giving us personal insights into thoughts on relationship preferences and also valuable guidance for autistic people and those who love them. Demonstrating that autistic people often want to share their lives with others in a wide variety of set-ups, this book finally puts to bed the age-old myth of autistic people as isolated loners. The wonderful diversity of the autism population when it comes to choosing how to live and who with shines through.
Sarah Hendrickx, autistic adult, Autism Specialist and author

Table of Contents

Section Title Page Action Price
Love, Partnership or Singleton on the Autism Spectrum, edited by Luke Beardon, PhD and Dean Worton 5
Preface - Luke Beardon 11
1. Different Loves for Different Folks - Wenn Lawson 15
2. Knowing, Being, Living: I Am One - Tracy Turner 37
3. Man in Progress - Alex Wilkinson 43
4. A Marriage of Two Halves - Dr Sandra Beale-Ellis 59
5. Learning to Adapt to a Different Type of Relationship - Joseph Edmonds 65
6. True Love, Finding Someone Special Enough to Deserve Me - Lynette Marshall 83
7. Benefits and Drawbacks of Relationships in a Different Culture to One’s Own - Freddie 87
8. Meeting the Train - Alyssa Aleksanian 95
9. Learning from Failed Relationships and Overcoming Sexual Obsession - David Walsh 103
10. The Infatuation That Almost Killed Me - Anthony Sclafani 113
11. A Relationship Is Not a Hobby: It’s a Full-Time Commitment, Like It or Not! - Norman Bridge 123
12. Accepting Each Other \n(aka Chapter Twelve) - Alexandra Brown 131
13. Building and Maintaining an Intimate Relationship - Dr Christopher Wilson 141
14. Thoughts from a Late-Diagnosed Aspie…and from Her Husband Too… - Joanna Treasure and Jon 151
15. What Makes an Individual the Right Partner? - Lacey Kerr 177
16. Finding Out That the Two of Us Share a Place on the Spectrum - C.A. Smart 183
17. Welcome to Planet PJ - PJ Hughes 187
18. Will I Get It Right Next Time? - Philip Bricher 193
19. ‘Doing Social’: Don’t Talk At , Talk To - David Smith 205
20. Happily Married on the Spectrum - Paul and Elizabeth Wady 221
21. Anniversary Flowers: It’s the Thought That Counts - Jules 225
22. Love (and Sex) Is Just a Game - Gwen Greenwood 233
23. Relationships: Sublime or Ridiculous? - Atul Movelis 247
24. Intimate Relationships: Head or Heart? - A. Nonny Mouse 257
25. Kissing the Frog - Chris Stobart 263
26. An Aspie Accord - Planet Autism 269