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Abstract
Feminism has changed the world; it is radically reshaping women’s lives. But what about men? They still hold most of the power in the economy, in government, in religions, in the media and often in the family too. At the same time, many men are questioning traditional views about what it means to be a man. Others resent the gains women have made and want to turn back the clock.
Nikki van der Gaag asks the question: how might feminism improve the lives of men as well as women? And is there a place for men in the feminist story?
Nikki van der Gaag is Director of Gender Justice and Women's Rights at Oxfam GB. She has been involved in feminism and development for more than 20 years and has held senior editorial and communications posts in the non-profit sector, including at Oxfam, the New Internationalist and the Panos Institute. She specializes in writing about gender, in particular girls’ issues, and men and gender equality. She is the principal author of six of the eight State of the World’s Girls reports and has written nine other books, including The No-nonsense Guide to Women’s Rights.
‘This book is highly recommended to anyone with an interest in issues around feminism and gender and could be the starting point for anyone looking to get an overview of men’s involvement in this movement.’
San Francisco Review of Books
'Globally, women have always been the vanguard in the struggle for gender equality. Yet as this book argues so persuasively we urgently need to engage men everywhere in the process, thereby allowing both women and men more freedom to pursue their full humanity, wholeness and balance. An essential text for all those engaging with development studies or any aspect of gendered education and health.'
Lynne Segal, author of Why Feminism?
'This book is thoughtful, insightful, and an effective mix of theory and personal narratives which build a strong case about the importance of feminism embracing men and men embracing feminism.'
Michael Kaufman, co-founder of the White Ribbon Campaign
'Men's relation to feminism has long been a contentious issue, irresolvable by a simple yes or no. Which is what makes Nikki van der Gaag's book so valuable: she teases out different strands of engagement and support in a variety of venues. It's not a question of whether or not men can "be" feminists, but a question of how and where, and how they remain accountable.'
Michael Kimmel, Distinguished Professor of Sociology and Gender Studies, Stony Brook University, author of Angry White Men and The Guy's Guide to Feminism
'Nikki van der Gaag successfully includes global voices in the conversation about men and feminism. With its attention to issues of work, education, caregiving and violence, this book is a welcome addition for all those seeking gender justice worldwide.'
Shira Tarrant, PhD, author Men and Feminism and Men Speak Out: Views on Gender, Sex, and Power.
'Thoroughly researched, engagingly written and refreshingly global in scope, Feminism and Men contributes significantly to the continuing debate over men's role in feminism. Nikki van der Gaag exhaustively examines her subject from multiple angles - political, economic, social, psychological and historical - to substantiate her argument that men must be more fully engaged in the struggle for gender justice.'
Alyson Cole, Professor of Political Science and Women's Studies, City University of New York, and author of The Cult of True Victimhood: From the War on Welfare to the War on Terror
Table of Contents
Section Title | Page | Action | Price |
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Front cover | Front cover | ||
About the author | i | ||
Title Page | iii | ||
Copyright | iv | ||
Contents | v | ||
Figures | vi | ||
Acknowledgements | vii | ||
1 Introduction | 1 | ||
Time to change: men and feminism | 1 | ||
Feminism and men for gender equality: together or apart? | 3 | ||
Why write this book? | 6 | ||
What this book brings to the debates | 8 | ||
Touching a nerve: the process of writing | 9 | ||
The structure of this book | 12 | ||
2 Beyond the Binaries: Feminism and Men | 15 | ||
Clearing the way: a man’s journey towards feminism | 15 | ||
What kind of feminist are you? | 16 | ||
Feminism: a four-letter word? | 19 | ||
Why do I need feminism? | 22 | ||
Including men in feminism: the devil is in the detail | 22 | ||
Feminism, men and sexuality | 29 | ||
Men’s rights: feminists as ‘agents of hate and corruption’ | 33 | ||
Can men be feminists? | 37 | ||
Equality and enlightenment: responses to the online survey for this book | 41 | ||
1 Can a man be a feminist? | 42 | ||
‘Equality makes me happy’: finding the sugar along with the medicine | 44 | ||
3 Shifting Cultural and Social Attitudes | 47 | ||
Becoming a better person … | 47 | ||
Everybody has a penis … only girls wear barrettes | 49 | ||
Puppy dog tails | 51 | ||
Pink stinks | 53 | ||
Red beans and hard hats | 56 | ||
Big boys should cry | 59 | ||
Phillip’s story | 63 | ||
Body image | 66 | ||
Pornography: making sexism sexy | 68 | ||
Young men who hate porn | 72 | ||
The influence of culture and religion | 73 | ||
Men stand up for women in Cairo | 78 | ||
Changing generations, changing attitudes | 80 | ||
4 No zero-sum Game: Education and Health | 84 | ||
A free human being | 84 | ||
Standing on their own feet: why girls don’t go to school | 87 | ||
Boys just want to play? | 89 | ||
2 Learning achievement and progress, by gender, Vietnam | 91 | ||
Parivartan: using sport to change boys’ attitudes | 94 | ||
Wearing a white toga: parents’ aspirations | 96 | ||
The Gender Equity Movement in Schools (GEMS) in India | 97 | ||
3 A university education is more important for a boy than for a girl | 98 | ||
‘Real men don’t get sick’? | 99 | ||
4 Suicides, women and men, per 100,000 people, 2001–10 | 102 | ||
5 Percentage of young people aged fifteen to nineteen who had higher-risk sex with a non-marital, non-cohabitating partner in the last year, selected countries | 104 | ||
Working together for gender equality | 105 | ||
The Men’s Travelling Conference: changing traditional beliefs in Africa | 106 | ||
‘Between Us’ in Brazil: for young men and young women | 109 | ||
5 Giving up Power? Women, Men and Work | 111 | ||
Jobs for the girls? | 111 | ||
Working women, working men | 113 | ||
6 Percentage of women in senior management around the world | 116 | ||
Genderand the global economic crisis in the UK | 118 | ||
Work is almost everything: the old architecture of manliness | 120 | ||
Work is almost everything: young men and work | 121 | ||
The ‘sticky floor’ – and poor man’s patriarchy | 125 | ||
Double shift, triple burden | 127 | ||
Fair pay for domestic work in Nicaragua | 129 | ||
Leaning in? | 130 | ||
From individual action to collective change | 133 | ||
7 When jobs are scarce, men should have more right to a job | 136 | ||
6 The Fatherhood Revolution? | 143 | ||
Fatherhood and caring | 143 | ||
The courage to raise a child | 146 | ||
A badge of pride: paternity leave | 147 | ||
Sweden: encouraging involved fatherhood | 149 | ||
What women want … | 149 | ||
8 Men’s and women’s reports of men’s participation in domestic duties, percentage | 153 | ||
The dreaded exercise | 154 | ||
… and what men need | 156 | ||
What fathers say | 157 | ||
9 Links between fathers’ and sons’ participation in domestic duties (defined as playing an equal or greater role in one or more duties) | 158 | ||
The greatest support: the positive effects of active fathering | 159 | ||
Young, black and proud to be a father | 160 | ||
A fairer deal: what prevents men being more involved fathers? | 162 | ||
Absent fathers | 166 | ||
Children’s views of fathers in South Africa | 168 | ||
Backlash: fathers’ rights groups | 169 | ||
‘So scared I was shaking’: the way forward in supporting fathers | 172 | ||
‘Daddy, I love you’: Young Dads TV | 173 | ||
7 Proving their Manhood: Men and Violence | 177 | ||
The final say | 177 | ||
Breaking boundaries not bones | 179 | ||
Examples of social and cultural norms that promote violence against women | 183 | ||
The abusive husband who became a role model | 184 | ||
‘Guys who fight are seen as cool’ | 187 | ||
‘If you are raised well you will not behave violently’ | 191 | ||
Unemployment, alcohol and violence | 192 | ||
10 Men’s reportsof work-relatedstress | 193 | ||
Male rape: a feminist issue | 195 | ||
Male hierarchies: men killing men | 197 | ||
Fear among the maras | 199 | ||
‘She provoked me’: blaming women | 201 | ||
Zaina’s story | 202 | ||
Addressing the root causes | 204 | ||
One Man Can: ‘See it and stop it' | 206 | ||
8 Conclusion: Becoming Connected | 210 | ||
Men and the future of feminism | 210 | ||
Notes | 214 | ||
1 Introduction | 214 | ||
2 Beyond the binaries | 214 | ||
3 Shifting cultural and social attitudes | 216 | ||
4 No zero-sum game | 219 | ||
5 Giving up power? | 222 | ||
6 The fatherhood revolution? | 226 | ||
7 Proving their manhood | 229 | ||
8 Conclusion | 233 | ||
Selected reading | 234 | ||
Index | 236 | ||
Back cover | Back cover |