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The Practice of Person-Centred Couple and Family Therapy

The Practice of Person-Centred Couple and Family Therapy

Charles O'Leary

(2011)

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Abstract

In The Practice of Person Centred Couple and Family Therapy, Charles O'Leary offers a rich description of relationship therapy that draws on the resources of both person-centred psychotherapy and systemic and family therapy to present a skilful, respectful and empathic approach to working with couples and families.
Grounded in detailed descriptions of client goals and predicaments, the book takes an inside look at the therapist's options and decision-making with both clarity and compassion. Written in a refreshing, lively and personal style, the book:
• Provides an abundance of ideas and techniques relevant to each step of the therapeutic process.
• Addresses the complexity of family and couple therapy, including chapters on working with same-sex couples and working with children and adolescents.
• Offers humanistic depth and breadth to a challenging area of practice, with a strong value base and a philosophy that always privileges the client's viewpoint.
Clear, concise, and highly readable, this is a vital, thought-provoking text for students, trainees and practitioners of counselling and psychotherapy working with couples and families.
Dr CHARLES J. O'LEARY is a licensed marriage and family therapist and American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists Approved Supervisor in private practice in Denver, Colorado, USA. He has held faculty positions teaching graduate students at National University, San Diego, California, San Diego State University and Regis University in Denver, Colorado. Charlie is the author of Counseling Couples and Families: A Person-Centred Approach, published by Sage in 1999, which has sold over 3000 copies in English and been translated into Italian and Japanese.
A very enjoyable text. Highly accessible, it guides the reader through a great deal of complex relational material, never leaving the inquiring reader stranded.' - John Hills, Consultant Family and Systemic Psychotherapist, and former editor of Context, the Association for Family Therapy publication, UK

'It gives a sense of creativity as possible for therapists, taking the core conditions beyond stereotyping into real life applications. I am grateful for this softness and caring that also provides clear limits and firm stands at the same time...I hope so much that it gets widely read, used and applied. ' - Dr Gay Barfield, Marriage and Family Therapist, Hawaii

'What is especially appealing is his generosity in sharing his humility and his doubts as well as his achievements, and his sense of humour. This is what transforms this book from just another theoretical work to a memorable encounter. When I did my couples training, I read several books. But it was only after getting my hands on this one that I felt truly confident to practise in this fascinating arena.' - Therapy Today

'An excellent book chock full of useful examples of how the therapist gets out of tight spots, deals with troublesome adolescents, husbands, and wives, and manages his or her own frustrations and feelings in order to help couples and families'- Art Bohart, Professor Emeritus of the University of Georgia

Table of Contents

Section Title Page Action Price
Cover Cove
Contents vii
List of boxes x
List of case examples xi
Acknowledgements xii
Foreword xiii
Introduction 1
1 The Challenges of Person-Centred Relationship Therapy 8
The World of the Relationship Therapist 8
What Do Clients Want? 9
The World of One Relationship Therapist 10
The Purpose of Relationship Therapy 16
Core Values in the Person-Centred Approach 20
Conclusion 28
2 The Tasks of a Relationship Therapist 29
Client Characteristics and Needs 29
Family Therapy as ‘a humble sensible field' 30
Practice 1: Actively Seek to Understand and Show Acceptance of Each Person Present 31
Practice 2: Provide Structure for the Sessions 35
Practice 3: Ask for, Clarify and Refer Back to Each Person’s Purpose in Being in the Session 38
Practice 4: Sustain the Conviction that All Clients Are Attempting to Actualize Themselves 39
Practice 5: Exercise a Teaching Function 43
Practice 6: Practise Consistent Non-defensiveness 46 46
Conclusion 48
3 Staying Personal while Thinking Systems 50
Systems Thinking 50
Human Life Is Individual Choices and a Reaction to Systemic Pressures 51
Elements of a Systems Perspective 53
Rules for a Dysfunctional Family System 55
Common Factors in Most Models of Systems Therapy 56
Active Facilitation of the Process 58
Looking at Families of Origin 59
Dealing with Emotional Reactivity in Systems Therapy 63
Person-Centred Systems Therapy at the Beginning 65
Person-Centred Therapy in the Middle 67
Person-Centred Therapy near the Ending 70
Conclusion 73
4 The Core Conditions of the Person-Centred Approach 74
The Necessary Therapeutic Conditions in the Relationship Therapy Context 75
Conclusion 93
5 Couple Therapy: A Person-Centred Way 94
Common Expectations in Couple Therapy 95
Common Client Reasons for Couple Therapy 96
Towards a Person-Centred Couple Therapy 98
In the Mind of a Couple Therapist 100
Another Approach to Therapy Influenced by Carl Rogers 103
Person-Centred Therapy and the ‘Space in Between’ 111
How Couples Change for the Better: A Vision of Good Outcomes in Therapy 112
Conclusion 113
6 Person-Centred Therapy with Gay and Lesbian Couples 115
The Not Knowing Position with Couples 115
Person-Centred Core Conditions and Same-Sex Couples 116
Gay and Lesbian Couples: The Research of Gottman and Levenson 118
Person-Centred Self-Awareness 118
Homophobia and Heterosexism: External and Internalized 119
Same and Different 122
Parents of Gay and Lesbian Children: Empathy and Advocacy 130
Conclusion 133
7 Family Therapy with Children and Adolescents 134
Reasons for Family Therapy with Children and Adolescents 135
In the Mind of a Person-Centred Family Therapist 137
Therapy in the Public or Voluntary Sectors 141
Thinking Like a Family Therapist for Children 143
Thinking Like a Person-Centred Therapist for Families ofTeenagers 146
Conclusion 152
8 On Becoming a Person-Centred Couple and Family Therapist 153
Therapists Do and Should Talk to Themselves 153
Person-Centred Systems Therapy: Trust in the Process 155
The Guidance of Carl Rogers 157
Humility and Confidence 160
Who Needs the Person-Centred Approach? 160
If Carl Rogers Were My Co-therapist for a Couple or Family 161
Afterword 166
References 169
Index 179