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Abstract
In The Practice of Person Centred Couple and Family Therapy, Charles O'Leary offers a rich description of relationship therapy that draws on the resources of both person-centred psychotherapy and systemic and family therapy to present a skilful, respectful and empathic approach to working with couples and families.
Grounded in detailed descriptions of client goals and predicaments, the book takes an inside look at the therapist's options and decision-making with both clarity and compassion. Written in a refreshing, lively and personal style, the book:
• Provides an abundance of ideas and techniques relevant to each step of the therapeutic process.
• Addresses the complexity of family and couple therapy, including chapters on working with same-sex couples and working with children and adolescents.
• Offers humanistic depth and breadth to a challenging area of practice, with a strong value base and a philosophy that always privileges the client's viewpoint.
Clear, concise, and highly readable, this is a vital, thought-provoking text for students, trainees and practitioners of counselling and psychotherapy working with couples and families.
Dr CHARLES J. O'LEARY is a licensed marriage and family therapist and American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists Approved Supervisor in private practice in Denver, Colorado, USA. He has held faculty positions teaching graduate students at National University, San Diego, California, San Diego State University and Regis University in Denver, Colorado. Charlie is the author of Counseling Couples and Families: A Person-Centred Approach, published by Sage in 1999, which has sold over 3000 copies in English and been translated into Italian and Japanese.
A very enjoyable text. Highly accessible, it guides the reader through a great deal of complex relational material, never leaving the inquiring reader stranded.' - John Hills, Consultant Family and Systemic Psychotherapist, and former editor of Context, the Association for Family Therapy publication, UK
'It gives a sense of creativity as possible for therapists, taking the core conditions beyond stereotyping into real life applications. I am grateful for this softness and caring that also provides clear limits and firm stands at the same time...I hope so much that it gets widely read, used and applied. ' - Dr Gay Barfield, Marriage and Family Therapist, Hawaii
'What is especially appealing is his generosity in sharing his humility and his doubts as well as his achievements, and his sense of humour. This is what transforms this book from just another theoretical work to a memorable encounter. When I did my couples training, I read several books. But it was only after getting my hands on this one that I felt truly confident to practise in this fascinating arena.' - Therapy Today
'An excellent book chock full of useful examples of how the therapist gets out of tight spots, deals with troublesome adolescents, husbands, and wives, and manages his or her own frustrations and feelings in order to help couples and families'- Art Bohart, Professor Emeritus of the University of Georgia
Table of Contents
Section Title | Page | Action | Price |
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Cover | Cove | ||
Contents | vii | ||
List of boxes | x | ||
List of case examples | xi | ||
Acknowledgements | xii | ||
Foreword | xiii | ||
Introduction | 1 | ||
1 The Challenges of Person-Centred Relationship Therapy | 8 | ||
The World of the Relationship Therapist | 8 | ||
What Do Clients Want? | 9 | ||
The World of One Relationship Therapist | 10 | ||
The Purpose of Relationship Therapy | 16 | ||
Core Values in the Person-Centred Approach | 20 | ||
Conclusion | 28 | ||
2 The Tasks of a Relationship Therapist | 29 | ||
Client Characteristics and Needs | 29 | ||
Family Therapy as ‘a humble sensible field' | 30 | ||
Practice 1: Actively Seek to Understand and Show Acceptance of Each Person Present | 31 | ||
Practice 2: Provide Structure for the Sessions | 35 | ||
Practice 3: Ask for, Clarify and Refer Back to Each Person’s Purpose in Being in the Session | 38 | ||
Practice 4: Sustain the Conviction that All Clients Are Attempting to Actualize Themselves | 39 | ||
Practice 5: Exercise a Teaching Function | 43 | ||
Practice 6: Practise Consistent Non-defensiveness 46 | 46 | ||
Conclusion | 48 | ||
3 Staying Personal while Thinking Systems | 50 | ||
Systems Thinking | 50 | ||
Human Life Is Individual Choices and a Reaction to Systemic Pressures | 51 | ||
Elements of a Systems Perspective | 53 | ||
Rules for a Dysfunctional Family System | 55 | ||
Common Factors in Most Models of Systems Therapy | 56 | ||
Active Facilitation of the Process | 58 | ||
Looking at Families of Origin | 59 | ||
Dealing with Emotional Reactivity in Systems Therapy | 63 | ||
Person-Centred Systems Therapy at the Beginning | 65 | ||
Person-Centred Therapy in the Middle | 67 | ||
Person-Centred Therapy near the Ending | 70 | ||
Conclusion | 73 | ||
4 The Core Conditions of the Person-Centred Approach | 74 | ||
The Necessary Therapeutic Conditions in the Relationship Therapy Context | 75 | ||
Conclusion | 93 | ||
5 Couple Therapy: A Person-Centred Way | 94 | ||
Common Expectations in Couple Therapy | 95 | ||
Common Client Reasons for Couple Therapy | 96 | ||
Towards a Person-Centred Couple Therapy | 98 | ||
In the Mind of a Couple Therapist | 100 | ||
Another Approach to Therapy Influenced by Carl Rogers | 103 | ||
Person-Centred Therapy and the ‘Space in Between’ | 111 | ||
How Couples Change for the Better: A Vision of Good Outcomes in Therapy | 112 | ||
Conclusion | 113 | ||
6 Person-Centred Therapy with Gay and Lesbian Couples | 115 | ||
The Not Knowing Position with Couples | 115 | ||
Person-Centred Core Conditions and Same-Sex Couples | 116 | ||
Gay and Lesbian Couples: The Research of Gottman and Levenson | 118 | ||
Person-Centred Self-Awareness | 118 | ||
Homophobia and Heterosexism: External and Internalized | 119 | ||
Same and Different | 122 | ||
Parents of Gay and Lesbian Children: Empathy and Advocacy | 130 | ||
Conclusion | 133 | ||
7 Family Therapy with Children and Adolescents | 134 | ||
Reasons for Family Therapy with Children and Adolescents | 135 | ||
In the Mind of a Person-Centred Family Therapist | 137 | ||
Therapy in the Public or Voluntary Sectors | 141 | ||
Thinking Like a Family Therapist for Children | 143 | ||
Thinking Like a Person-Centred Therapist for Families ofTeenagers | 146 | ||
Conclusion | 152 | ||
8 On Becoming a Person-Centred Couple and Family Therapist | 153 | ||
Therapists Do and Should Talk to Themselves | 153 | ||
Person-Centred Systems Therapy: Trust in the Process | 155 | ||
The Guidance of Carl Rogers | 157 | ||
Humility and Confidence | 160 | ||
Who Needs the Person-Centred Approach? | 160 | ||
If Carl Rogers Were My Co-therapist for a Couple or Family | 161 | ||
Afterword | 166 | ||
References | 169 | ||
Index | 179 |