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The Counsellor's Guide to Personality

The Counsellor's Guide to Personality

Rowan Bayne


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This text offers a wide-ranging, integrated, comprehensive introduction to the field of personality differences for counsellors, looking at the key theories and exploring their application to practice. Suitable for trainee, new and experienced counsellors, this is an invaluable addition to training course reading lists.
ROWAN BAYNE is Professor of Psychology and Counselling at the University of East London, UK where he has taught counselling for over 30 years, and core tutor of the Postgraduate diploma/MA in Counselling and Psychotherapy. He is the author of three books on applied personality theory, including Psychological Types at Work: An MBTI Perspective and The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator: A Critical Review and Practical Guide and several books on counselling including The Counsellor's Handbook (with Gordon Jinks).

Table of Contents

Section Title Page Action Price
Cover Cover
Contents v
List of Figures and Tables x
Preface xii
Acknowledgements xv
Introduction xvi
1 Personality and Counselling 1
McAdams' integrative model of personality 1
Domain one: traits (or preferences) 2
Domain two: motives 3
Domain three: life stories 3
How personality theory is important in counselling 4
Research on the effectiveness of counselling 4
Increasing self-awareness 5
Improving the counselling relationship 8
As a new perspective on client problems 9
Psychological type or preference theory 9
The concept of 'preference' 9
The concept of 'psychological type' 11
Five factor theory or the 'Big Five' 13
Reframing anxiety as two preferences 14
Comparing preference theory and the Big Five 15
Validity 15
Tone 16
Versatility 17
Personality development 18
Personality change 20
An apparent exception 21
Developing the ten preferences 22
Four general principles 22
Strategies 23
An overview of how counsellors can use preference theory 24
Conclusions 25
Appendix: Summary of single-letter abbreviations for the ten preferences 26
2 Increasing Self-awareness 1: Discovering the Preferences 27
Four general principles for discovering the preferences 28
Two case studies 29
Strategies for helping clients discover their preferences in a counselling session 30
Be clear about the meaning of each preference 31
Consider whether pressures early in life or now are relevant 39
Consider using brief exercises 39
Consider using Keirsey's ideas about the four temperaments 39
Consider using a questionnaire 42
Read brief descriptions of the whole types 42
Read longer descriptions 43
Two extra strategies for discovering the preferences outside a counselling session 46
Experiment with behaving as if you have each preference 46
Ask people who know you well 46
Replies to questions about preference theory and the process of discovering preferences 46
3 Increasing Self-awareness 2: Discovering Motives 49
Motives and the four temperaments 50
Motives and the preferences 52
Motives for becoming a counsellor 60
The 'good counsellor' 61
Motives and your choice of counselling model or models 61
Discovering personal strivings 65
Two general methods for discovering motives 67
Values and strengths 68
4 Improving the Counselling Relationship 70
Matching counsellors and clients 71
Four 'languages' 71
Stages of change 72
The authentic chameleon issue 73
Collecting feedback and the skill of immediacy 74
Notes on communicating with clients of each preference 75
Clients who prefer Extraversion (E) or Introversion (I) 75
Clients who prefer Sensing (S) or Intuition (N) 76
Clients who prefer Thinking (T) or Feeling (F) 77
Clients who prefer Judging (J) or Perceiving (P) 78
Clients who prefer Calm (C) or Worrying (W) 78
Two case studies 79
An ISFJ client 79
An ENFP client 79
The core counselling qualities 80
Acceptance 80
Empathy 82
Genuineness 84
Marketing yourself as a counsellor 85
Your counselling room 86
5 How Personality Can Affect Clients' Problems with Love and Work 88
The preferences and communication: problems and strategies 89
The four temperaments and communication 92
Some problems with love 92
Client 1: Love bothers me: how do I know…? 92
Client 2: Which love style is best for me? 94
Client 3: We kiss so differently… 94
Client 4: Why do I take so long to recover…? 95
A note on potential problems between people with the same preferences 95
Client 5: I want a good relationship that lasts… 96
Client 6: I feel such a bad mother… 97
Some problems with work 98
Client 1: What work would suit me? 98
Client 2: How can I improve my CV? 100
Client 3: How can I improve my interview technique? 100
Client 4: I've been late too often… 100
A note on time 'management' 101
Client 5: We have a new trainer and I can't follow him at all… 102
Client 6: I've been made redundant and I'm struggling… 103
Client 7: I rarely speak in meetings… 103
6 How Personality Can Affect Clients' Problems with Health 104
Physical health 106
Client 1: I'm tired all the time… 106
A note on stress 107
Client 2: I want to lose weight and I've tried so many different ways… 109
Client 3: I know I need to do more exercise but it's so boring… 111
Client 4: I've got Parkinson's… 112
A note on loss 113
Mental health 114
A note on personality disorders 114
A note on ADHD and ADD 115
A note on dementia 116
7 Extended Case Studies of Personality Development 118
Type development from an ESTJ perspective, by Jean Kummerow 119
Developing my preferences and non-preferences, by an INFPC 128
Love of words 128
Love of sport 129
Appealing and repelling activities 129
Looking for romantic love 129
Time alone 130
Other preferences and non-preferences 130
8 Increasing Self-awareness 3: Discovering Life Stories 131
How and when to suggest exploring life stories 132
Some methods for exploring life stories 133
Scripts 133
The life story interview 134
Self-defining memories 135
Archetypes 135
Analysing and reconstructing life stories 137
Concluding comment 139
Further Resources 140
Books and articles 140
Other Resources 140
References 142
Index 151