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Landscapes of the Heart

Landscapes of the Heart

Juliet Grayson



In this book, teacher and psychotherapist Juliet Grayson gives us privileged access to her unique client sessions. Following several couples' journeys through psychosexual therapy to more loving relationships, we witness her rich blend of life-changing approaches, including Pesso Boyden System Psychomotor (PBSP), the potent new methodology she has helped to pioneer in the UK.

Exploring both the practical and theoretical aspects of her work, Juliet shakes our assumptions and shows ways to improve and ultimately heal our most intimate relationships. This is a ground-breaking book, valuable for lay readers and therapists alike.

Landscapes of the Heart can be read from several perspectives. Its easy-to-read style will inform struggling couples - as well as benefit couples who want to improve a satisfactory relationship. Therapists (or anyone interested in becoming a therapist) will learn about the systemic nature of working with couples from the comprehensive client cases. This is an absorbing, practical and beautifully written book we will recommend to many people.
Penny Tompkins and James Lawley, Authors of Metaphors in Mind: Transformation through Symbolic Modelling
As a lay person, I found Juliet's description of the therapeutic process clear and insightful. Her book gives the reader a strong sense of the power of these approaches, bringing the theoretical material vividly to life.
Dr Sarah Goode, Sociologist and Author
I LOVED IT. Juliet allows us into her therapy room with openness, honesty and passion. The book demystifies couples therapy; it demonstrates how relationships can break down but more importantly how a couple can be helped to put things right again. Congratulations Juliet you have filled a real gap on the bookshelves.
Trudy Hannington, UKCP Registered Psychosexual Therapist
A wonderful book. Practical, clearly written and full of insight, it is a valuable contribution to the literature on working with couples.
Robin Shohet, Author and Psychotherapist
Juliet's book is a real jewel. She brings depth and clarity to complex relationship issues in a way that will be of enormous value both to couples themselves as well as to therapists interested in going beyond a 'talking' approach.
Nicholas Janni, Author and Founder of Core Presence
Juliet is a skilled therapist who combines an intuitive understanding of relationships with a sound grasp of couples therapy techniques. Her enthusiasm for solving relationship problems, which shines through the text, together with examples of her work, makes this a valuable book for anyone curious about this field of therapy.
Dr Michael Crowe, DM, FRCPsych
It's illuminating to see how the Pesso Boyden System Psychomotor method is applied in Juliet Grayson's compelling account of her work as a relationship and individual therapist.
Sally Potter, Relationship Therapist, Executive Coach and Accredited Pesso Boyden Trainer
After twenty-five years of dedication to the field of therapy, Juliet shares thoughtful and creative insights into how our lives can change. I've seen her consistent love and support for many people as a therapist, now we get to take that home with us in her writing. Pesso Boyden therapy has an understanding of the unconscious born from Martha Graham dance, and insight into human nature. Juliet is a pioneer of this method in the UK, and I watch her develop it with deep respect.
Marie-Elsa Bragg, Director of Westminster Leadership Consultancy and Duty Chaplain, Westminster Abbey
Beautifully written and thought provoking, drawing from experience, casework and theory. An outstanding resource for clients and therapists alike. Highly recommended.
Dana Braithwaite, UKCP Registered Psychosexual Therapist
This book combines Juliet Grayson's expertise as a couples therapist with the wisdom she has acquired from Pesso Boyden System Psychomotor therapy. By showing how childhood issues come up in couple conflicts and providing resolutions through Pesso Boyden 'antidotes', she breaks new ground.
Barbara Fischer Bartlemann, Dipl. Psych. MA, Pesso Boyden Trainer
Juliet demonstrates a clear theoretical basis for her work, which is well explained. She then uses her creativity, humanity and wisdom to individualise her work and apply it to specific difficulties.
Ruth Hallam Jones, Psychosexual Therapist
I am delighted to see Juliet publish the first book in the UK describing the effectiveness of Pesso Boyden System Psychomotor (PBSP) in individual and group sessions. This continues Juliet's passion: to spread the message that PBSP is a transformative method that supports people becoming more fully who they truly are and finding greater meaning and pleasure in life.
Al Pesso, Co-Founder of PBSP
This is an exciting and interesting book. It explores simply, clearly and sensitively difficulties we have in sexual relationships. Her description of the theoretical context to her work is lucid and accessible, which makes this book a good read for lay readers and practitioners alike.
Jason Wright, MA, UKCP Registered Psychoanalytic Psychotherapist, Clinical Director of Number 42
Juliet has the ability to enthrall with her narrative. Within a few lines, I was gripped as if reading a page-turning thriller, wanting to know what happened next. It's more than just observational psychology, it's compelling and enlightening. The descriptions of the characters and their relationships are interwoven with Juliet's insights in a dance that carries you along.
Antony Haynes, Registered Nutritional Therapist, Director of The Nutrition Clinic Ltd, Lecturer, Author
Juliet Grayson is an inspirational therapist and teacher. This book is an invaluable contribution that will improve relationships - your own, or other people's. Having witnessed the Pesso Boyden technique myself, I am deeply impressed with this method.
Paula Hall, Sexual & Relationship Psychotherapist, UKCP Reg, BACP Acc Sex Addiction Therapist
Have you ever been stuck, thought about going to therapy and hesitated? This is a compelling and inspiring book that I feel certain will help anyone interested in improving their relationships.
Sharon Rooke, Psychotherapist, Chair of NLPtCA
Juliet's book is impressive. She starts off with practical clinical examples that demonstrate her work, and links that to her psychological understanding about human existence.
Lowijs Perquin MD, Psychiatrist
Juliet Grayson is an acclaimed psychotherapist, coach and teacher, specialising in working with couples and sexual problems. Juliet was one of the pioneers of Pesso Boyden System Psychomotor (PBSP) in the UK, and is amongst the first accredited UK trainers. She has been a UKCP registered, NLPtCA accredited, and COSRT accredited psychotherapist for more than twenty years. Juliet's breadth and depth of experience has earned her the reputation as the 'therapist's therapist'. Follow Juliet on Twitter @HelpingYouBeYou.
Beautifully written. An enlightening and helpful exploration of various methodologies brought vividly alive with valuable case study examples that show how couples can recover the closeness of their early relationships whilst, at the same time, developing a deeper and more substantial understanding of each other that leads to a richer partnership. A compelling and lively read, steeped in humanity and compassion. I found her great many insights into the relatively new methodology of Pesso Boyden System Psychomotor fascinating.
Sue Parker Hall, Relational Psychotherapist and Author of Anger, Rage and Relationship: An Empathic Approach to Anger Management
This is an essential read for clients who want to enhance their self-awareness and emotional intelligence.
Judith Lowe, MD of PPD Learning Ltd, NLP Institute, London
An accessible and warming read! This book is ideal for one curious about psychotherapy. The style of writing invites a reader to 'sit beside' Juliet - with her clear mind and warm heart - while she finds a way to help and heal her client.
Sandy Cotter, Founding Director of the Praxis Centre at Cranfield School of Management

Table of Contents

Section Title Page Action Price
Landscapes of the Heart: The Working World of a Sex and Relationship Therapist by Juliet Grayson 5
Disclaimer 8
Acknowledgements 9
Foreword by Brigid Proctor 11
Chapter 1 - Jamie and Meg 17
Jamie and Meg: Ten Days Later 27
Thoughts and Theory: Gaining Different Perspectives 35
Chapter 2 - Frank and Maxine 47
Frank and Maxine: Six Months Later 59
Thoughts and Theory: The Confusion of Fusion 67
Chapter 3 - Rakesh and Kim 81
Rakesh and Kim: Two Months Later 93
Thoughts and Theory: The Model of Five Star Conscious Relating 99
Chapter 4 - Sheila 111
Sheila: Ten Months Later 123
Thoughts and Theory: PBSP – The Structure of a Structure 131
Chapter 5 - Chloe and Josh 141
Chloe and Josh: Three Months Later 155
Thoughts and Theory: PBSP in a Group - Touch, Trauma and Vulnerability 163
Chapter 6 - Peter and Anita 171
Peter and Anita: Eight Weeks Later 181
Thoughts and Theory: The Magical Marriage 191
Chapter 7 - Horses, Therapy and Relationships: Juliet’s Story 203
Appendix 1: Glossary of terms 219
Appendix 2: The kind of sessionsthat Juliet Grayson and her team offer 231
Appendix 3: How to find a therapist 235
Appendix 4: The importance of having a medical check forsexual problems 238
Appendix 5: Where to go for help if you havesexually inappropriate thoughts 243
Appendix 6: Select Bibliography 245
References 248
About the Author 256
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