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Talk to Me

Talk to Me

Heather Jones

(2014)

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Abstract

If your child finds talking to people a struggle, this is the book to get the conversation started.

In this hands-on guide, Heather Jones offers practical advice, born of experience with her own son, which will help you teach your child the principles of communication. Full of strategies and examples, it shows how you can allay fears, build confidence and teach your child to enjoy conversation. Once a child gets used to talking with other people, many life skills can develop more easily as they grow up – from making friends and shopping for themselves, to being interviewed and eventually getting a job.

This handy book provides guidance and inspiration to parents, teachers and anyone else who cares for a child who finds language and comprehension difficult.


With the benefit of hindsight and personal experience, Heather Jones has provided a powerful insight into the complexities of raising a child with Asperger Syndrome and significant speech language impairment. This enlightening account of Jamie's journey from angry, frustrated child to communicative young adult should not be missed.
Sarah Frost (M.Ed; Ba hons) Educational Consultant
“This book is a sign of emotional intelligence at its best. It is a wonderfully inspiring piece of writing and should be at the fingertips of parents everywhere who want to think clearly and communicate lovingly with their children. Heather Jones has displayed all of the insights of on outstanding communicator in approaching the problem of connecting with, and developing the communication skills of, her son. She has then managed to translate these insights into clear and simple steps for all to follow.”
Patsy McCarthy, Adjunct Professor, Speech Communication, Queensland University of Technology, Brisbane
Heather Jones's son, Jamie, has Asperger Syndrome and severe speech and language impairments. When Jamie was 10, Heather stumbled across a way of getting through to him. Over the years she developed this methodology in more detail, calling it conversational therapy, and has never looked back. Jamie is now 19 and can hold a conversation, which has enabled him to go on to achieve much more, including passing his driving test and getting a job. Heather is the Director of Milkwood Educational, which publishes ESL textbooks in the Far East. She lives in Queensland, Australia.
“Heather Jones has given us an easy-to-read book on an important and complex topic—conversation. She brings a wealth of experience and understanding of her son who, like many others, lacks the skills (though not the interest) to talk with us. Lots of tips for parents here. We need more books from those who live with those coping with autism.”
Anne M. Donnellan, PhD, Professor, University of San Diego, Professor Emerita, University of Wisconsin-Madison
This should be read by parents of all children, not just those with autism.
Lorretta Perry, grandmother of Yvander, a 17-year old with ADHD and autism

Table of Contents

Section Title Page Action Price
Talk to Me: Conversation Strategies for Parents of Children on the Autism Spectrum or with Speech and Language Impairments 3
Preface 9
Part I Working on Conversation 13
1 Increasing Vocabulary is Not Enough! 14
2 How to Get Your Child Talking 17
3 Demanding a Conversation with Your Child 20
4 It’s Never Too Late to Start Encouraging Conversation 23
5 Talking About a Diagnosis 26
6 Finding a Reward System That Your Child Can Verbalise 31
7 Using a Diary as a Conversation Catalyst 34
8 Teaching Your Child How to Ask ‘Wh-’ Questions 37
9 Teaching Turn-Taking in Conversation 39
10 Teaching Your Child to Be an Active Listener 43
11 Being an Active Listener for Your Child 47
12 Teaching the Importance of Staying on Topic (Without Over-Indulging in Special Interests) 51
13 What is Phatic Communication and Why is it Important? 54
14 Encouraging the Use of Names 56
15 How to Help Family and Friends Have Conversations with Your Child 58
16 Talking About Body Language and Emotions with Your Child 61
17 Understanding the Importance of Pauses and Silence 65
18 Making the Most of Stories and Story-Telling 68
19 Using Mind-Maps to Improve Conversation 72
20 Coping with Idioms and Incorrect English 75
21 Teaching Your Child to Verbalise Distress (and Avoid a Meltdown) 78
22 Conversation Starters in the Supermarket 82
23 Conversation Starters on Car Journeys 86
24 Conversation Starters and Special Interests 89
25 Encouraging Conversation with Games and Puzzles 92
Part II Developing Social Skills, Life Skills and Independence 95
26 Making Friends 96
27 Dealing with Authority Figures 99
28 Birthday Parties and Youth Groups 102
29 Planning for Practical Life Skills 106
30 Using Mind-Maps to Develop Abstract Life Skills 110
31 Organising Daily Life and Establishing a Routine 114
32 Giving Your Child Responsibility for Daily Tasks 119
33 Preparing Your Child to Organise Their Life 122
34 What Your Child Can Learn from Caring for a Pet 126
35 Preparing Your Child for Cooking 129
36 Preparing Your Child to Manage Money 135
37 Noticing the Absence of Meltdowns and Encouraging Resilience 140
38 Preparing Your Child for Job Interviews 144
39 Preparing Your Child for Driving 147
40 Preparing for the First Day at Work 151
Afterword: Where Are We Now? 154
A Conversation with Jamie 156
Appendix: Measuring Your Child’s Progress 158
Recommended Resources 164
Index 165